-J. Kyle Howard
Been There, Done That: I’ve been searching for my purpose in life too…
At the young age of 8, I was staring into the coffin of one of my favorite uncles. I was enjoying childhood too much to inquire about life but this death thing had me puzzled. So, like any child when faced with the unknown, I asked a million questions. If you had been an eye-witness to this event, you would have seen adults avoiding me like I had some deadly viral infection. I even had the pastor on the run. I did corner him as he came from the bathroom and hit him with a barrage of questions. He looked to my mom for mercy and she quickly pulled me away.
If I had been satisfied with the first answer, I swear that I would not have asked the same question over and over. I did, however, discover two things at my young age:
- When confronted with a question from a child, an adult will “make things up” instead of saying they don’t know.
- What adults do “know” is usually based upon social and traditional thinking. This is the information that gets passed down to kids. Their little minds are filled to the brim with this inaccurate knowledge. One would think that lazy thinking and ignorance was hereditary. You may feel the need to change the water in your “gene” pool. It’s OK, just realize that everyone does the best they can — lesson’s learned as a parent.
Anyway, it had taken me 30 years to have the revelation of the answer to the question stated above “what’s my purpose?”. Keep this in mind — what I’ve found to be true with any paradox or tough question is that the answer always, always, always lie in simplicity.
Ockham’s Razor: The Secret to Solving Life’s Problems
Ockham’s Razor is the principle proposed by William of Ockham in the 14th century:
“Pluralitas non est ponenda sine neccesitate”, which translates as “entities should not be multiplied unnecessarily”. More succinctly, “all things being equal, the most simple explanation is probably the best…”
With that concept in mind, here is what I discovered about purpose in my apartment in Baltimore, MD during an ice storm: The Purpose of Life is simply to Live and to live abundantly. Whether you choose to or not and how you do it is up to you.
I know that this won’t sit well with a lot of you because it’s too easy and most of you feel that life should be mysterious and complicated. Who complicates things, we do. Look around you, we are the only creatures on this planet that live life begrudgingly, wishing it was all some other way than it currently is because in our minds someone else has it better than we do.
We are the only creatures on this planet that seem to have difficulty with living harmoniously in the environment that we alone created. Watch the Discovery Channel or Animal Planet and see how other creatures go about their daily lives. We are supposed to be the intelligent species yet we can’t seem to get it together because we keep telling ourselves that we are not “OK”; when in fact, we are wonderful. We look at a rose and admire its beauty but look in the mirror with disdain.
We have allowed someone else to set the standards of abundance, beauty, and health instead of deciding on our own. We then go out into this world of “make-believe” and wonder why we don’t measure up, bemoaning our fate. Guess what? Today is the day that I, your host, will give you a swift but friendly kick in the “you know what” to jump-start you on your journey.
A Rare Opportunity to… Live the Life of Your Dreams
Before you end this section, you should have some idea as to what your purpose is. Yes, you are going to choose it. There exists two schools of thought on this, which are:
- More religious based: The idea is that God or whatever one believes has already decided what your purpose is and what you are to do with it (fatalist), so you are to spend your life waiting for it to be revealed. These people give up or do not believe in complete freedom of choice. If that is what you believe then I would say that you are not here by mistake.
- A bit more dynamic: These would be your discoverers, explorers, those that believe that they are fully in control, that they create the circumstances in their lives thereby deciding for themselves what their purpose is. With that in mind, you are not here by mistake either.
Whatever you believe is not up for debate here. It either serves you well or it does not and whatever you choose to do with it is entirely up to you. There is no right or wrong just some principles that you can add to your life.
Where to? No journey begins without a destination
Imagine that you are a cab driver and I jumped in your cab and said, “Ok, just drive”. Your first question would be, where to? In this situation, it’s such an obvious question to ask but you’d be surprised to find out that the reason why only 3% of the world’s population are achieving its goals is simply because they have designed them with a destination in mind.
You are probably thinking, not another speech about setting goals. I say that because I felt the same way a few years ago and if I hadn’t, I would not have reached the level of “living the life of my dreams”. If this is your goal then I would suggest you pay close attention to what follows.
“Where there is no vision, the people perish; but he that keepeth the law, happy is he.” – Proverbs 29:18.
My intention here is not to get preachy but to show you that the problems you face today are the same that have existed yesterday and the solutions that worked yesterday will work today. Again, I am talking about simplicity. Mankind has made life difficult. It was not designed that way. What you are getting here is the most simplified way to discover your purpose and use it to succeed in life. This is not a difficult task unless you want it to be. It will require some diligence on your part but it’s easy. Are you up to the task of redesigning your life into one filled with meaning and living your ideal life or do you wish to remain the same, trudging along to the beat of someone else’s drum?